Hitting the dating scene as a married man can be tough, especially if it’s been more than a few years since you were taken off the scene. Knowing how to make yourself stand out from all the other guys was probably difficult enough before you were married, but now you may feel like it’ll be even more difficult. However, worrying too much will only make things harder than they actually are. If you keep a few things in mind and know how to approach women correctly, you can stand out from all the other guys in the bar or club and find your perfect mistress in no time at all.
Act Your Age
One of the biggest ways you can use your marriage to your advantage when hooking up, even if you don’t advertise your marital status, is by acting mature. If you’re married and looking to have an affair, chances are that you’ve worked your way past the wild and crazy teenage years. This can be a serious benefit to you when you hit the dating scene, because if you’re going after women your age or younger women, all of them are used to being hit on by immature guys. All you have to do is act more mature and show them that you know how to treat a woman. Stay away from pickup lines and treat her like an intelligent conversational partner while still laying heavy on the charm. This may seem obvious to you, but you’ll be surprised by how much it makes you stand out from the typical guy these women are approached by.
Have Unique Conversation Starters
“Practice your pick up lines before approaching her”
The more engaged you get a woman in the conversation, the more likely she is to want to keep talking to you, which means your chances of hooking up are higher. You already know you should avoid pickup lines, but if it’s been a while since you tried to hook up with women you may not know how else to start a conversation. It’s usually easier than you think. Choose an engaging topic that she likely doesn’t hear a lot. Ask her about what she’s drinking or come up with some kind of story that relates to your surroundings. Whatever you do, try to engage her in a conversation instead of complimenting her in the hopes of getting to score.
Don’t Act Desperate
“Acting desperate will never get you laid”
The part of hooking up where plenty of men go wrong is acting too desperate. If you place all your hopes on one woman and she turns you down, it isn’t the end of the world. Accept that there are other women for you to meet. The more you depend on one woman to be your hookup or mistress, the more desperate you will seem without even noticing it. Don’t hang on her every word in a desperate attempt to come up with something to say, and don’t seem like you’re just saying what she wants to hear. Relax and play it cool and you should be completely fine and well on your way to having an affair.