“Think of sex as an innate human desire and carry on”
When they first cheat on their wives, a lot of men feel extremely guilty afterward. These men either get over their guilt, or they cave and end up telling their wives about the affair. As you can guess, this is devastating to their wives and lots of counseling or divorce is soon to follow. The thing that these men and their wives fail to understand is that we are all human and we have urges.
Understand That You’re Only Human
Some people will argue that humans can be with one person for most of their lives and never have the urge to have sex with someone else. If you believe that, then maybe cheating isn’t for you. However, most of us believe that sex is sex and just because you have sex with someone other than your wife doesn’t mean that you love your wife any less.
When you find yourself feeling guilty about wanting to cheat on your wife, be it after browsing profiles on popular married dating websites or cruising a local bar, you need to remind yourself that you’re only human. Do not ignore the urge to cheat on your wife. The longer you ignore it, the more intense it will become until you end up cheating in a way that completely devastates your wife. You will be sloppy with your cheating and you won’t care whom you cheat with just as long as you do it. It will always lead to disaster. Do not risk it. Instead, you should act on your urges, but make sure to plan things out in advance. After you’ve cheated, make peace with yourself about it. Sometimes we only need to cheat once for the urge to go away complete. Sometimes we never want to stop. Both are equally acceptable reactions.
Think About How Lucky Your Wife Is
“Your wife is lucky to have you. Isn’t it?”
Sure, you may be cheating on her, but your wife has it pretty good. She is the person that you go home to every night. She is the person who is allowed to spend your money whenever she wants. Sometimes you buy her dinner, clothes, gifts, and jewelry without ever asking for anything in return. Some wives realize this and they’re fine with having open marriages. These wives understand how lucky they really are. Sadly, most wives don’t share this same view, so often you have to go out and spoil yourself in a way that you feel you deserve.
When you decide to cheat, you need to realize that you aren’t doing anything that millions of other people in the world wouldn’t do. People cheat all the time. Both men and women cheat and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or a bad husband. It just means it takes a little more to satisfy you than one woman. The next time you feel the urge to cheat, do not try to fight it or to convince yourself that you’re being greedy. Accept the fact that you are human and have needs, and act on them. Just be careful not to get caught.